This is going to be a long entry to I’ll chop it up into 2-3 pieces. Keep an eye out for the sequel!
This is going to sound absolutely crazy, but recently I’ve started to feel a little old. Well, not exactly. As a Global Studies major, I’ve looked at women’s rights and poverty all over the world quite a bit… and it’s been getting to me. In class this week we watched 6 Billion and Beyond (the 3rd or 4th time for me!) and it got me thinking.
Many young women all over the world have been wishing and fighting for the chance (not even the right!) to delay marriage and childbirth. I’ve been fortunate enough to be raised in cultures where women are routinely reminded of their rights and choices, and pushed to take advantages of them. Even we can’t delay childbirth forever though.
My mother was 27 or 28 when she had me. I’m currently 22. If I have my first child when I’m 27 I only have 5 years left to explore the world and do what I want before I must devote myself to caring for a young life. If I wait until I’m in my mid-thirties there may be a significantly increased risk of complications and birth defects.
That’s kind of depressing. Assuming I don’t decide not to have children (which, admittedly, is beginning look more and more attractive–hey, everyone’s adopting from third world nations nowadays, right?!) I only have 5-10 (dare I push 15?) years left. Also, do I want to be fifty-something when my kids are in high school? They’ll think I’m an old foagy who’s waaaay past remembering what it was like going through puberty and couldn’t possibly relate to them.
There’s still so much I still want to do! Spend a few years with my relatives in France. Work on health/micro-finance/women’s rights projects in Africa. Am I going to have enough time to do all of this (and all the other things I’ll discover and want to do)?
How do I balance and organize my time so that I’ll have enough time to travel around the world and do what I love without waiting “too long” to have children? Even more importantly, have I been making good use of the time I’m so fortunate to have?
What do you guys think? Will you wait a long time to have kids? Are you even worrying about this yet?!